More and more people are choosing not to actually marry, aparently. The trouble is, there's still lots of legal rubbish that is in biased toward the married; it's so much easier to, say, get insurance, that sort of malarky.
Just this morning I had Radio 5 on. They were on about 'the property ladder', talking about it in a way that suggested if you weren't going for buying, you were somehow lacking. Just another example of the norm, I suppose. Sod being happy, join us.
This is descending into a rant, so I shall let you go. Fight the power.
"It frightens me because I am also afraid that this IS what a lot of women think, and, my not holding such views or behavioural traits, am therefore punished in some way by this."
That's what scares me too, that modern women after her predecessor's went to so much effort to obtain social equality for women kind, that the majority of women in western society are actually back sliding into the habits of women of the 50`s. It must be such a great feeling to know you can marry some man and sprog some mewling bratt secure in the knowledge that society not only will accept your role as a mother but also commend the fact you will spend the next 18 years of your life doing nothing else but that of performing the roles of housewife and baby maker.
Just an opinion don't shoot me.
It probably would be a great feeling if you didn't have any desires to fulfil yourself with creativity or ambitions...and don't know that you can be any better...or perhaps not have the mental capacity to be any better?
I wonder if it really is an intellect-based thing?
And therefore the majority of people not questioning or able to question their existence or trying to attain higher goals or creative desires, just huddling along like ignorant sheep, MUST think like this...
The path of least resistance. Must be so good.
Wish I had found it.
My middle sister did...but then, I always maintained she was lacking in brains a little, and somewhat naive/dippy...
Now she has a husband, a four year old, and a 10 month year old screaming wah!!
Not my kind of thing at all!!
I wouldn't mind a long-term partner, my romantic notions of a 'Heathcliff/Cathy' soulmate will never die...but I'm not out looking at all.
I want too much time for myself for that to figure at the moment.
And marriage?? Only in my most insecure moments...eeeeepp!!!! Otherwise, with the right person and on an equal intellectual and emotional footing, utterly unnecessary!!!
This is a play written by an Irishman and based on English characters.
Never really understood the concept of marriage in the modern world [please refer to item 20 of my Armchair Manifesto]. Relationships can be quite hard work at the best of times, often involving a lot of compromise. If a relationship is going well, why change its legal status. If it’s going badly, getting married isn’t likely to make it better. I know people could argue over the pros and cons of marriage but time is the real issue with me. We all change over time, especially feelings, attitudes, interests, and aspirations. Thinking that you are going to have the same feelings for someone in one year’s time [and vice versa] is really taking a gamble. In ten year’s time, it’s just Russian roulette. In a normal relationship, that wouldn’t be too much of a problem because that type of commitment isn’t normally expected. For marriage I just couldn’t think that far ahead to make a promise about lifetime commitment. But I forget, if it doesn’t work, you can just get a divorce and try again with someone else. I wonder how many people quickly become imprisoned by marriage but remain together out of fear, misplaced loyalty, or for financial reasons and then really regret it on their deathbed. Unfortunately, from an early age, we are socially conditioned to get married and have children. In my admittedly limited experience, women seem to feel this pressure most. They can happily go to Uni, start a career, buy a home, have children and live independently [with or without male partners] but deep down, some of them admit to secretly wanting the romance and excitement of a white wedding and the so-called security of a marriage with Mr Right. Sad thing is I’m facing a bit of a reality check here myself. A few of my friends, having formally led high profile anarcho-punk lifestyles and then experienced the post 30 apocalypse thing, are now engaged and busily preparing for a life of servitude. Perhaps it’s easier to be a headless chicken. Conform, get married, have children and pay your bloody taxes.
NOOO to the headless chicken and conformity!!!
I heartily agree with everything you said there, once again...
I might have to borrow that armchair manifesto for myself;)
Perhaps this reality check thing is just our age, and will pass...I have a few aunts who either live with other aunts or just their dogs and they are perfectly happy even in their 70's...
(yes, my family is somewhat eccentric)
Not seen Gosford Park, but I can play most characters. Not found one yet that was disagreeable lol!
That's what actors do;)