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Plea [Aug. 20th, 2004|04:23 pm]
Miss Von Trapp
Please don't be specific about my situation in your replies to my posts atm. They get READ by the flatmate!!

Yes, I know he's OCD, depressive and agoraphobic - but I'm trying to keep this information OUT of my public journal. He's having a lot of help from the psychiatric doc, social worker, behavioural therapist etc etc etc now - but I don't want to go into detail in non-friends only posts. I'll do a proper post explaining the full situation of my last ten years of our relationship and the last twelve years of living with him when I've moved out and have brain-space to look at it objectively.

At the moment, I'm going along, moving out because I've been trying to get him to move out for the past two years, this hasn't happened and I can't afford to support him anymore. It's forced the issue with the crappy NHS mental health care so that they're actually helping him now rather than piling it all on to me - sorting out the situation I'm leaving him with and changing his meds so he's a bit more positive.

Btw, you can comment here: this is filtered and won't be read:/

[User Picture]From: hennepin
2004-08-20 08:40 am (UTC)
Wow, you're incredibly brave. I can imagine you feel a tremendous weight is being removed.
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[User Picture]From: missvontrapp
2004-08-20 08:42 am (UTC)
I do. At least I will do as soon as I've moved out of here.

I'll have to continue the support for a couple of months after I've gone, but it'll be from a distance and hopefully only in dire emergency. I'm taking all the bills with me so that he's left with a clean start until his money starts coming in as well, so I won't lose that burden for a while yet.

Got to keep my chin up and keep at it - but I'm finding it rather stressful atm:/
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[User Picture]From: hawklord2112
2004-08-20 08:49 am (UTC)


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[User Picture]From: missvontrapp
2004-08-20 08:51 am (UTC)
Not to worry - it's not the first reply I've deleted lol!!
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From: shardofmany
2004-08-20 10:42 am (UTC)
Care in the community the great policy that dumps responsibilities on family and friends!!! GOT TO LOVE IT!
Similar circumstances are happening this neck of the woods since I have put my foot down with the NHS and told them in no uncertain terms that I shall be in the states in the next six months permanently. It seems to have done the trick so far.
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[User Picture]From: missvontrapp
2004-08-20 10:57 am (UTC)
Love it indeed. Useless bastards:/ My mother is to be thanked for forcing them to do a home visit too - told them in no uncertain terms that if they didn't do anything soon then they'd have two patients on their books instead of just him lol!

Good for you, I'm really glad things seem to be finally working out - and about time too! Best of luck with that:))

*big hugs*
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From: ranatash_moon
2004-08-20 02:07 pm (UTC)
i was startin to worry as u hadnt posted for over a day..lol sounds like u hav really been through the mill over the last year or so and more so in the last few months.... i know what thats like as i seem to hav been stuck between the mill stones for the last few months myself, and it seems most of the people i know have been through the same stuff within the last few months as well, maybe its something to do with the time of year or something..

sorry for my rambling to much vodka tonite..lol

Hope ur throat is feelin better as im lookin forward to hearin more of ur singin..
BB, Ranatash .xx
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[User Picture]From: missvontrapp
2004-08-20 10:53 pm (UTC)
Over the last year or so? Since 1995ish actually...and at it's worst between 1997 and 2001...broke up with him in 2002 as I was stressed and totally in the mother role rather than the girlfriend one... Then got stuck as carer since then as well as he wouldn't/couldn't move out.

Ho hum. Roll on next friday, and I can maybe start my life again.

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From: ranatash_moon
2004-08-21 06:37 am (UTC)
wow its been that long, what an amazing thing to do for someone. I think you will find your life will get goin again pretty quickly once you hav moved out fully.

Im havin to start all over again as my ex drove all my friends away and then insisted we move to devon and then didnt want to make new friends down here so im havin to start from scratch..lol and just to make matters worse its my 33rd birthday on monday (im not a great fan of my birthdays..lol) and im lost for ideas of something to do since im almost broke so can't go away backpacking as i would do normaly.. The only current option is a day with my parents and them complaining about my braids sayin im to old to look like this and why cant i hav a nice short back and sides...lol
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From: misswhiplash63
2004-08-21 02:13 am (UTC)
Glad things are getting sorted out *hugs* I think you've been amazing to stick with it, from what (little) i know of the situation.
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[User Picture]From: missvontrapp
2004-08-21 05:38 am (UTC)
Either amazing or just too stupidly nice. I'm rather more in favour of the latter lol!
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